Shyness, as long as it is not extreme is a God-given quality of character. It is a sign of a healthy humility and of a thoughtful intelligence. Often the most happy, useful and interesting people have had natural shyness since youth. “Someone who is sure of himself does not talk all the time. People who stay calm have real insight. After all, even a fool may be thought wise and intelligent if he stays quite and keeps his mouth shut” (Proverbs 17:27-28).
There is no need to have special boy/girl of the opposite sex early in life. Such early infatuations do not pave the way for later happiness. A youth who is “healthy” mentally and spiritually will not crave such immature love affairs. They usually fill the vacuum that should be filled by something better. Lack of education or challenging activities to develop a ‘healthy’ youth physically, mentally, and spiritually, makes romantic “affairs” seem like the only joy in life. Don’t envy your young friends who hop from one acquaintance to another in a series of hot-headed attachments. They have probably been reading exciting love novels or watching imaginative TV shows or movies. Do not envy these misguided youths, because it is possible that their premature infatuations may make it much more difficult for them later to realize real, lasting love. Do not complain because God has made you like He has. Perhaps He has something especially good for you in life. “A clay pot does not ask the man who made it, ‘why did you make me like this’?” (Romans 9:20).
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